Posted 24 March 2017 - 03:55 PM
I'm very sorry, man. It's agonizing and I've been through the shit, too. Haven't all of us? Even her? For me (and this isn't you, of course) I found that unfortunately no supplement or prescription medication to help heal my broken heart.
In fact, the opposite: exploring anti-depressant cycles, and then a dozen pitched, bro-science supplements, and even mainstream talk therapists just seem to make things worse.
What worked (sorta) for me is to get out of my head, face the harsh truths that I did the best I could for love and to keep her, it didn't work, we fell out of sync for all the complicated reasons so intimate. And so we reluctantly moved our separate ways, none of it was easy for either of us. Acceptance took me a long, long time. And I'm still not there -- deep wounds slowly healing. There just aren't any easy answers, sadly, through heartbreak.
Find something you love -- work or exercise, immerse yourself in healthy living, improve your diet, try meditation or yoga or dance, hit the books, try to find ways to improve yourself. The thing is -- stay out of the head -- "Being in my head is like being in a bad neighborhood, I don't go there alone," someone wrote.
Engage the body instead, give your limbs and feet and arms and legs healthy work to do, whatever it is that you love. Stay away from endless booze if that's what's beckoning here in dark. Alcohol, drugs, doing crazy shit just isn't gonna help much long term.
Sorry if this writing is too long: I try to experience all the emotions as they bang on and on within me: sadness moves into anger that morphs into fear then relief, maybe, briefly, a slight glimpse of freedom, then it's right back to crippling depression. Like clockwork, these emotions. If I give meditation a chance, simple seated breathing helps a because it gives me the time to watch the restless brain as it cycles between shitty emotions. Seated meditation isn't a cure, of course, but look at the horrors that people like the Tibetians have endured, gracefully, calmly, breathing in and out in meditation, and eventually some compassion and acceptance of the suffering may sustain.
You're not alone, we all go must through the shit. Sorry I'm zero help with supplements, tho, for me nothing worked beyond finding my life's passion, devoting myself to it.
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