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#1 Intropersona

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Posted 13 June 2017 - 02:57 AM


At mid twenties iam noticing the time between desiring for sex is increasing. What does it feel like to be beyond 40+? Is it just that you desire sex not as much? Is it not as pleasurable? Is it hard to get stimulated? Or does all the mental desire still remain? I am using "old age" in reproductive sense here, so don't go bruising your egos, I am sure you have plenty of time left ;)


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Posted 13 June 2017 - 11:26 PM

It all depends by your hormones (and few other things, mostly lifestyle related), I am much hornier at 56 than I was at 20.

 

At 20 I was smoking my head off, at 56 I lift heavy weights.

 

To be too horny at 20 is dangerous, not experienced enough, women can be dangerous creatures and pussy needs to be handled with care...better off enjoying weed.:)


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Posted 13 June 2017 - 11:27 PM

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Posted 14 June 2017 - 02:45 AM

Picasso fathered a child at 91.  I believe it was his 6th wife.

The journey is  the destination,


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#5 Intropersona

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Posted 14 June 2017 - 04:02 AM

Haha, you guys crack me up :D haha

 

I see a lot of people saying they are hornier as they get older as a means of staving off realizing the realities that they are actually not. In other words, a psychological coping mechanism to deny the fact that they have lost their libido and zest for life.

 

What I want to know is whether you still feel desire for your partner even when your bodies are all wrinkled and old? Or does the interest for their "private zones" just diminish and you become more interested in, i dunno, remote control planes or knitting or something. Is there still a desire to be close and intimate and cuddle in bed? Or is it just sleep in separate beds and then wake up and say "good morning" and then go off to work as if they were someone you used to love but are now (by some quirk of genetic programming that causes cellular and hormonal depletion) just somebody you used to have feelings for.


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Posted 14 June 2017 - 03:29 PM

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When You Are Old 
By William Butler Yeats

 

WHEN you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;

How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true, 
But one man loved the pilgrim Soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.


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Posted 24 June 2017 - 09:27 PM

I am 62, and very little has changed. Around about age 57 I realised that those episodes where I became uncontrollably, obsessively horny were a thing of the past; but far from regretting it, I am rather glad to be calmer about the whole matter. I am fortunate in health and take no meds, and it is my theory that illness and resulting medications are behind the sexual issues that hit a lot of people as they age.


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Posted 02 July 2017 - 05:57 PM

I'm in my mid late 50's and it's better than ever.  The key is to focus on the basics:  hormones, arterial health, gut health, a good diet (which I would define as a high fiber, high plant, flexitarian diet) and lots of exercise.  

 

Yeah, someday, we'll have breakfast, lumch and dinner bars that we eat and supplements and regenerative medicine that care of all of this for us.  But, in the meantime, you have to work to keep your sex life going or you'll end up with advanced atherosclerosis, fatty liver and hormonal deficiencies like almost everyone else 40+ around you.

 

I feel much better than I ever did in my 20's and 30's, but I also now have to work to be in that state, whereas I did almost nothing for my health in my 20's and 30's...

 

Libido is good; erections are reliable.  But you HAVE to keep atherosclerosis to a bare minimum.  Take the time to learn to keep the plaque out of your arteries - trust me you'll struggle once that happens, especially if you are my age.


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Posted 17 July 2017 - 11:22 AM

I'm in my mid late 50's and it's better than ever.  The key is to focus on the basics:  hormones, arterial health, gut health, a good diet (which I would define as a high fiber, high plant, flexitarian diet) and lots of exercise.  

 

Yeah, someday, we'll have breakfast, lumch and dinner bars that we eat and supplements and regenerative medicine that care of all of this for us.  But, in the meantime, you have to work to keep your sex life going or you'll end up with advanced atherosclerosis, fatty liver and hormonal deficiencies like almost everyone else 40+ around you.

 

I feel much better than I ever did in my 20's and 30's, but I also now have to work to be in that state, whereas I did almost nothing for my health in my 20's and 30's...

 

Libido is good; erections are reliable.  But you HAVE to keep atherosclerosis to a bare minimum.  Take the time to learn to keep the plaque out of your arteries - trust me you'll struggle once that happens, especially if you are my age.

 

Thanks for replying. Do you find your refractory periods are a lot longer? IE you have to wait for a week or two after sex to feel horney again?

 

P.S. I am mid twenties currently taking niacin for prevention of clogged arteries and antioxidants, is atherosclerosis inhibitory for erections? is that why you mention it?


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Posted 17 July 2017 - 11:25 AM

I am 62, and very little has changed. Around about age 57 I realised that those episodes where I became uncontrollably, obsessively horny were a thing of the past; but far from regretting it, I am rather glad to be calmer about the whole matter. I am fortunate in health and take no meds, and it is my theory that illness and resulting medications are behind the sexual issues that hit a lot of people as they age.

 

I want to believe you but something just says to me old men like to say they have great libidos so that they don;t feel insecure about being old. Most older men i meet always wish they were younger and by saying you are still strong in the bedroom (refractory period wise) is like a defense mechanism to be able to cope with your failing body. Kind of like how people like about how much they eat to people so that they don't come off as a fatty or gluten.



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Posted 17 July 2017 - 06:02 PM

 

I am 62, and very little has changed. Around about age 57 I realised that those episodes where I became uncontrollably, obsessively horny were a thing of the past; but far from regretting it, I am rather glad to be calmer about the whole matter. I am fortunate in health and take no meds, and it is my theory that illness and resulting medications are behind the sexual issues that hit a lot of people as they age.

 

I want to believe you but something just says to me old men like to say they have great libidos so that they don;t feel insecure about being old. Most older men i meet always wish they were younger and by saying you are still strong in the bedroom (refractory period wise) is like a defense mechanism to be able to cope with your failing body. Kind of like how people like about how much they eat to people so that they don't come off as a fatty or gluten.

 

 

If you don't want to believe what people tell you, anonymously no less, why start a thread and ask, then doubt the responses? Beyond that, as you say you are mid-20's, nearly ALL men are older than you. They can't ALL be lying, or are YOU really the insecure one?


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Posted 18 July 2017 - 07:24 AM

 

 

I am 62, and very little has changed. Around about age 57 I realised that those episodes where I became uncontrollably, obsessively horny were a thing of the past; but far from regretting it, I am rather glad to be calmer about the whole matter. I am fortunate in health and take no meds, and it is my theory that illness and resulting medications are behind the sexual issues that hit a lot of people as they age.

 

I want to believe you but something just says to me old men like to say they have great libidos so that they don;t feel insecure about being old. Most older men i meet always wish they were younger and by saying you are still strong in the bedroom (refractory period wise) is like a defense mechanism to be able to cope with your failing body. Kind of like how people like about how much they eat to people so that they don't come off as a fatty or gluten.

 

 

If you don't want to believe what people tell you, anonymously no less, why start a thread and ask, then doubt the responses? Beyond that, as you say you are mid-20's, nearly ALL men are older than you. They can't ALL be lying, or are YOU really the insecure one?

 

 

Because phenomena of this kind are pervasive throughout the psychology of modern man and are well-established in academia. Think about the instinct for survival, it is something that every male has and is a product of his neurology. Likewise, the instinct to protect the ego is as proliferant throughout the neurology of all sane males AND females. The whole reason why people argue is to not feel wrong because feeling wrong is damaging to one's pride and therefore ego. What I am saying is that men may never admit the truth on this because it harms their ego as, IME, no older male wants to be old, yet even admit that he is old. And what you are coming back at me and saying is that i shouldn't doubt something that is firmly rooted in the psychology of males. The whole idea behind doubting responses of this kind is to allow OPEN-MINDED people to re-asses whether they make that judgement (of their sexuality) on the basis of truth or on the basis of their pride. Depending on how you respond to this establishes WHICH place you make the judgement about your sexual desire from (pride or grounded assessment).


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Posted 18 July 2017 - 02:42 PM

Lots of words Intropersona. Here are a few add'l ones for your introspective nature...

 

"The whole reason why people argue is to not feel wrong because feeling wrong is damaging to one's pride and therefore ego."

- We (or at least I) are not arguing. I'm simply having a fun diversion while eating breakfast. Even if we were, and regardless, damage to my pride and ego are not at stake about this.

 

"What I am saying is that men may never admit the truth on this because it harms their ego..."

- My ego is not based on how old I am, and the "truth" does not need to be admitted, it is self evident to all who have the experience to comprehend.

 

"IME, no older male wants to be old, yet even admit that he is old."

- I would rather be any older age (up to mine so far) rather than be back in my twenties, I'll happily admit that. You just do not know why that would be just yet.

 

"And what you are coming back at me and saying is that i shouldn't doubt something that is firmly rooted in the psychology of males."

-Heavens no, I am not! Doubt away. I'm telling you you should absolutely doubt, what you believe, is so firmly rooted in the psychology of males.

 

"Depending on how you respond to this establishes WHICH place you make the judgement about your sexual desire from (pride or grounded assessment)."

- Exactly! 


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Posted 18 July 2017 - 10:18 PM

 

I am 62, and very little has changed. Around about age 57 I realised that those episodes where I became uncontrollably, obsessively horny were a thing of the past; but far from regretting it, I am rather glad to be calmer about the whole matter. I am fortunate in health and take no meds, and it is my theory that illness and resulting medications are behind the sexual issues that hit a lot of people as they age.

 

I want to believe you but something just says to me old men like to say they have great libidos so that they don;t feel insecure about being old. Most older men i meet always wish they were younger and by saying you are still strong in the bedroom (refractory period wise) is like a defense mechanism to be able to cope with your failing body. Kind of like how people like about how much they eat to people so that they don't come off as a fatty or gluten.

 

Everything is subjective, of course, and it's quite possible that things have declined more than I think; but since they make no practical difference for me, I feel that my sexuality is much the same as ever--if less driven. Our brains constantly adjust to our changing bodies to make us feel as if nothing much is changing at all. This is why many people say they feel much younger than they are.

 

So I can't tell you that my subjective opinion is objectively true. What what I can say is that I've no motivation to lie. I have been posting here for several years, and generally I report good health and a sense of wellbeing. I have no reason to come here and tell untruths for the sake of it. As for wishing I were younger, I don't. I am semi-retired already, and the last thing I'd like is to go back to the stress of working full time, struggling to raise a family and make ends meet. Since I feel well, I am happy to be 62. Rather than wishing I were younger, I dream of a long, healthy old age.


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Posted 19 July 2017 - 03:21 PM

 

I'm in my mid late 50's and it's better than ever.  The key is to focus on the basics:  hormones, arterial health, gut health, a good diet (which I would define as a high fiber, high plant, flexitarian diet) and lots of exercise.  

 

Yeah, someday, we'll have breakfast, lumch and dinner bars that we eat and supplements and regenerative medicine that care of all of this for us.  But, in the meantime, you have to work to keep your sex life going or you'll end up with advanced atherosclerosis, fatty liver and hormonal deficiencies like almost everyone else 40+ around you.

 

I feel much better than I ever did in my 20's and 30's, but I also now have to work to be in that state, whereas I did almost nothing for my health in my 20's and 30's...

 

Libido is good; erections are reliable.  But you HAVE to keep atherosclerosis to a bare minimum.  Take the time to learn to keep the plaque out of your arteries - trust me you'll struggle once that happens, especially if you are my age.

 

Thanks for replying. Do you find your refractory periods are a lot longer? IE you have to wait for a week or two after sex to feel horney again?

 

P.S. I am mid twenties currently taking niacin for prevention of clogged arteries and antioxidants, is atherosclerosis inhibitory for erections? is that why you mention it?

 

No, refractory period is just a few hours generally.  If I am pushing myself a lot physicially - low sleep and long work hours - I will sometimes have to wait 24 hours to get horny again.  But, generally, libido is strong and ready to go in 6-12 hours post-orgasm.

 

Yes, atherosclerosis lowers nitric oxide levels and ages the arteries - which means less flexibility and elasticity.  And another issue is blood flow:  the artery that supplies the penis is smaller and so significant plaque can actually lower blood flow itself to the penis.  So keep those arteries pristine.  

 

Read Heal Your Heart by K Lance Gould.  Great book with tons of data.  He uses statins and has a lot of info on statins, but keep in mind that he is treating men and women with advanced heart disease so he brings in some big guns to get them back in shape.



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Posted 19 July 2017 - 11:26 PM

I'm 44 and have more sex now than I did 25 years ago. It's better than ever now, my GF and I fuck twice a day most days, morning session and evening session. I'm leaner now than I was 25 years ago, I've learned the importance of lifting heavy weights and intermittent fasting. Morning erections are a great indicator of cardiovascular health, it's shocking to see how many men don't get morning wood due to piss poor health. You should wake up with a raging boner to jerk off or slide into your girl (or guy depending on sexual orientation).  


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Posted 03 August 2017 - 01:12 AM

Haha, you guys crack me up :D haha

 

I see a lot of people saying they are hornier as they get older as a means of staving off realizing the realities that they are actually not. In other words, a psychological coping mechanism to deny the fact that they have lost their libido and zest for life.

 

What I want to know is whether you still feel desire for your partner even when your bodies are all wrinkled and old? Or does the interest for their "private zones" just diminish and you become more interested in, i dunno, remote control planes or knitting or something. Is there still a desire to be close and intimate and cuddle in bed? Or is it just sleep in separate beds and then wake up and say "good morning" and then go off to work as if they were someone you used to love but are now (by some quirk of genetic programming that causes cellular and hormonal depletion) just somebody you used to have feelings for.


I'm only 30 but I find old ladies sexxxy.
im pretty sure i fucked 2 people that were like 45.
I've seen some hot grannies in my time. 
There are a few old ladies who are really sweet and intelligent too. Some are really fucked in the head, they act like they're 13 or something.

I dont think the getting older and sex getting better thing is a protective mechanism. I mean, maybe for some people it is. But I can say i have had some very high quality sex experiences now that I'm older. Even though I'm not that old lol. I was also on basically daily masturbation or sex mode. I only stopped recently because of my antidepressants, which don't lower my libido but actually makes it harder to climax. Which to me is awesome because then I can fuck someone for a really long time which I actually enjoy.  Not having sex or masturbating for days is sometimes nice because it doesn't necessarily affect your functioning. And your mind sometimes will get set off by some kind of ultra raging horniness that comes from something mental. It's not like it's built up or anything it's just that it feels like a genuine horniness rather than automatic.  

But I'm sure some of you are reading this and thinking, "oh this guy's still a baby, 30 yrs old"! lol. 

(note:i didnt read all the replies in here yet, just responding to OP, will check whole thread)


Ah, I forgot to add: I also find that certain things boost my libido even if they are not hormones. For example Kratom makes me wake up with a raging boner. Or I'll get randomly super horny from it. So it's probably a neurochemical thing too



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Posted 03 August 2017 - 01:16 AM

Dry.

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