When I came into this relationship my wife had a daughter from an evil man who is in Prison. I raised her from the time she has 8 months old. She's not biologically mine, but I'm her father. Nobody except family knows I'm not the real father. I'm a very loving, caring father and I read and do all the daddy things. I pride my self on being a great father. A monkey can make babies - it takes a man to be a Father.
So my wife and I conceived a child and I was ecstatic...My name is Jack Kingdon Cole the III -- well, I just found out it's a girl.
I stormed out of the ultrasound room cursing and my left would not let me in the car and drove off. I had to take the Bus home. (In the south, public transportation is no fun)
We just got back from D.C. where I went to the Inauguration and The Official Youth Ball -- we had a blast - my Aunt and Uncle work for Homeland Security in Chester, Maryland so we had a place to stay. It worked out perfect and was a week of history and everybody in a great mood. Two Million People chanting "Yes We Can" and "Obama" - it was magical.
But - I wanted to have two kids. A boy and a girl. I knew coming into this marriage and legally adopting Caroline that there is only room for one more - I'm not going to keep "making babies" just to have a boy.
I just talked to a mentor of mine and he said I'm being a dick and I had no control over the sex of the baby - it was my sperm that decided the sex.
The baby is perfectly healthy and weighs 1.4ounces as of 22 weeks -
I've been so excited about having my 'own' child since we found out we were having a child. But I always said "I can feel HIM kicking.." We were going to call him "Jackson" even though his name would be mine plus IV.
I'm throwing a pity party because of a selfish reason and now... I'm just... depressed. I called off work, I took a few Valium, and turned on some stupid small claims judge show on TV. (Judge Judy is amazing though - her books are amazing) --
We just bought a house in Bradenton, FL - 5 minutes from the beach - 3/2.... There is no one left to carry the Cole name. My father died. My aunt had two daughters, my Uncle is gay.
Should not I be excited about the baby being perfectly healthy and becoming a 'real' father late May/early June - a Gemini. If it was a Boy it'd be JKCIV,a Gemini, just like me. Another reason I'm just.. blah.
Now I'm afraid there is going to be favoritism of my two daughters since one is biologically mine and the other is not biologically mine, but she is still MY DAUGHTER. I'm her DADDY. In fact, I'm about to take her to the park so she can play and I throw a pity party on a bench for an hour.
Any advice? Any kick in the ass?