I feel for you. I agree, meeting others does not work if you're truly heartbroken, it only rubs salt in the wound. I don't understand why people always recommend it. It's almost sadistic.
I recently tried alpha gpc; for most it makes them more depressive. I also got very angry and depressed from choline bitrate, but I was not any more depressed from alpha gpc unless I take too much and it's said to release dopamine/making dopamine receptors more dense and it's also good for cognitive improvement which is basically the opposite of irrational feelings like lovesickness so you can try that along with maybe other nootropics if you haven't already tried them.
Medicineman, I am very happy ssris worked for your mood, I used to be taking ssri myself but I had the idea I felt better after QUITTING them... mentally that is... (It makes you horribly tired, but I guess it will pass). I don't think ssri are good for mood in the long run at all in cases like me (besides it makes every psychedelic do nothing at all or make the trip plain horrible lol). I probably need to be going back to my ssri because of an anxiety disorder but I'll try to take a very low dose this time.
Something that also recently helped me is more a change in thoughts, focussing on everything that wasn't good about the relationship. I never thought I would be able to come up with anything at all, when you're in love you think that person is perfect. However if they were they wouldn't have broken up with you in the first place. I dwelled on that in the wrong way, thinking that he was perfect except for the tiny thing that made him not in love with me anymore. But it wasn't a tiny thing at all. Actually when I think about t now I don't want to have anything to do with him in a romantic sense anymore. I guess you could say I fell out of love. But I hate that term, it means weakness, as if feelings are doomed to be uncontrollable. People love saying things are uncontrollable yet they love blaming you for not getting over the uncontrollable. I hate that hypocritical way of thinking.
I still can't say I'm happy. I'm depressed because the idea of love, the fantasy, is gone and I don't think it will ever come back with anyone (I'm usually not the falling-in-love-type). What helps me is that I started to see life as some kind of necessary intermediate step and no total fulfillment. Maybe there's some kind of heaven, maybe there isn't. But I think the modern idea of "life is what you make it, and therefore it should be happy" just doesn't apply for most people. I used to attribute beliefs to that fact, such as "I apparently don't deserve to be happy" or "life is unfair", but that's irrational as well. If everything you wanted in life was to have a happy relationship and it didn't work out and you don't think it will ever work out with anyone else, finding your life at least bearable on your own is the only solution that's left. But that's also the most difficult thing, so you have to find another purpose in life.
Edited by rebecca123, 07 December 2014 - 11:30 AM.
