Broke up with live in girlfriend...need help
grainger 21 Oct 2006
Last night I took a vlium and it seemed to help but when I woke up this morning the feelings returned.
Is valium the right choice in this situation? Xanax? I am fully aware that neither drug is the long term solution but I wouldlike to take somthing to help take the edge off so I can start to cope and deal with these problems.
Thanks in advance for everyones suggestions and comments
Jim
ajnast4r 21 Oct 2006
i find hard exercise REALLY helps with unbearable stress.
best way to get over a girl, is another girl... never fails
almac_uk 22 Oct 2006
You can always post on here - it's remarkable how kind and understanding people can be, even if they're complete strangers.
Hope you feel better.
mitkat 22 Oct 2006
On top of all the recent work stress that I have this week I just broke up with my live in gorlfriend of 1 year. I know that keeping busy is always a good thing and I am doing this but she consumes my mind and it is very difficult to continue to lead my life the way I need to live it. I am distracted at work and have crying bouts. All in all I am having a very hard time delaing with these feelings.
Last night I took a vlium and it seemed to help but when I woke up this morning the feelings returned.
Is valium the right choice in this situation? Xanax? I am fully aware that neither drug is the long term solution but I wouldlike to take somthing to help take the edge off so I can start to cope and deal with these problems.
Thanks in advance for everyones suggestions and comments
Jim
I feel for you, man! We've all been there before, I know that doesn't help any This could give you a potential good situation, sort of an output for any upset or angst you well. In a way, a chance to take sometime for yourself, and get your headspace off this girl. You've gotta try to use this time period to the best of your abilities, because it's in your hands how it's going to be. Why not get back into something you used to do, or take up a new interest. I know that sounds cheesy as hell, but damn son, give 'er a thought.
Why not one of the many facets of life extension?
caston 22 Oct 2006
Infernity 22 Oct 2006
Breakups are never easy.... Time heals 'em best.
Most of us have been through at least one breakup, and most of us will tell you it wasn't easy.
I wish you the best....
-Infernity
mitkat 22 Oct 2006
Suffering leads to attachment.
Fair. But we can't simply avoid any type of relationship being concerned with the eventual outcome. Love doesn't have to be a feedback loop, it is what you make it.
"'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all."
Misquoted from so many sources, might as well be "anonymous" by this point
We've all had to tough it out. The key for me was to find something important to do, to take up the time and headspace left behind. Just don't sit in your room listening to The Smiths (unless you listen to them all the time)...make the most of this time with yourself.
doug123 22 Oct 2006
"'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all."
Misquoted from so many sources, might as well be "anonymous" by this point
Ah, that quote sort of reminds me this one; but I know who that is:
Some are born to move the world
To live their fantasies
But most of us just dream about
The things we'd like to be
Sadder still to watch it die
Than never to have known it
For you, the blind who once could see
The bell tolls for thee...
Ghostrider 22 Oct 2006
Ghostrider 22 Oct 2006
Just try some crack.
Stay away from substance abuse. Strip club might help (not being serious, but it worked for Dave Chappelle).
meatwad 22 Oct 2006
"I got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one."
-JayZ
in all honesty Ajnastr is right on the money. My girl went to college, within 3 weeks I had already bonded and attached to another girl. This one is now currently occupying my thoughts and I barely have even thought of the other one.
kottke 22 Oct 2006
caston 23 Oct 2006
Suffering leads to attachment.
We will never be able to end suffering. Lets focus on ending worrying instead.
23 Oct 2006
If possible, move out and set up a new place. Also treat yourself to some new clothes, technology, a holiday, a sportscar - whatever your budget allows. Make yourself happy. Get a membership to a new gym. Learn a foreign language.
Everyone goes through this at one time or other. It will pass and you will grow.
Infernity 23 Oct 2006
Just try some crack.
Stay away from substance abuse. Strip club might help (not being serious, but it worked for Dave Chappelle).
Lol, it was a joke
-Infernity
caston 23 Oct 2006
Valium in a very short term solution to deal with extreme distress.
If possible, move out and set up a new place. Also treat yourself to some new clothes, technology, a holiday, a sportscar - whatever your budget allows.
If he could afford sports cars I don't think he'd be worrying about his ex for very long
FunkOdyssey 23 Oct 2006
Which will prepare you to successfully do this:If possible, move out and set up a new place. Also treat yourself to some new clothes, technology, a holiday, a sportscar - whatever your budget allows. Make yourself happy. Get a membership to a new gym. Learn a foreign language.
That is the winning formula in my experience. If you jump right into #2 without doing your homework first, with your self-esteem and confidence still battered down from the breakup, your prospects are not good.best way to get over a girl, is another girl... never fails
Athanasios 23 Oct 2006
I have had similar experience with that formula. For me, it is the healthiest and most enjoyable way to experience the cycle.
ajnast4r 23 Oct 2006
if you do jump into another girl, try not to make it a relationship.... cos eventually when that hurt wears off, more than likely you will realize you dont actually like the person your with. ie: dont hurt someone else to get over your own hurt. friends w/ benefits is the best way imo
i also agree with getting urself something nice. treating yourself always helps in my expirience.
zoolander 23 Oct 2006
Man! It's a daily battle.
Girl or no girl, you will always suffer if you can't except the fact that you're nothing in the whole scheme of things. Sounds pretty harsh but the ego I refer to only exists if it believes it's something.
IMHO, where there is ego there is suffering. The origin of your suffering is desire. The idealistic view that your life will be better with a girl. The desire for something better than being by yourself.
zoolander 23 Oct 2006
That's my 20 cents