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[doug123]

Check this out:

http://www.imminst.o...t=0#entry136058

A quote:

[quote name='http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=2602275']After a career that's spanned decades, she's slapping her old friend Linda Evans every night in the traveling stage production, "Legends," and is happier than ever with a husband 35 years her junior. [/quote]

[platypus]

Assuming you are a consenting, single adult and assuming you find the person attractive
physically, intellectually, and/or emotionally would you date someone decades your senior?
If not, why not? Does it produce a "gut reaction" in you if you see people doing this?

It's a pity women still have to go through menopause as this restricts their options in dating younger men (who want kids) quite a bit.

[Live Forever]

Shepard likes his women old and hairy.

That's just what I hear.

[Karomesis]

Shepard likes his women old and hairy.

That's just what I hear.

Hugh heffner was once told by Barbie benton (18 yrs old) that she doesn't date anyone over 24...he said "niether do I"


I think some older women can be attractive in a general sense, but unfortunately, evolution has indicated to me that they do not posess the same ability to produce offspring in a healthy fashion. therefore, I'm not sexually attracted to almost any woman over 30-35 max.

I'm 29 and married, but I still think women are at their most beautiful in their mid teens to about 25. that doesn't change no matter how old I get. And if our ancestors thought women past their reproductive prime were more atractive than 20 year olds, we wouldn't be here. So it wasn't and probably isn't selected for. The dating personals are also an indicator of this, the older the age of the women...the fewer responses. Likewise the more powerful and wealthy sounding a man is.(lawyer, businessman, doctor)...the more responses from women

Don't get me wrong. I have nothing against it, I have nothing against almost anything you can imagine, provided it doesn't harm anyone and you stay the hell out of my way.

I say do what makes you happy. rest assured their will soon come a time when secrets are in the open( transparent society), we might as well all be ourselves in anticipation of this occurence.

[Shepard]

Shepard likes his women old and hairy.

That's just what I hear.

My general rule is for every decade over 40, she must have an extra zero tacked onto the end of her net worth.

I've explained this to your mom repeatedly.

[Karomesis]

My general rule is for every decade over 40, she must have an extra zero tacked onto the end of her net worth.

I've explained this to your mom repeatedly.

PWn3D

[Cyberbrain]

Well, Aubrey de Grey's wife is older then him ... by almost 20 years (I think).

[Shannon Vyff]

Yeah, there are many examples of being happy in marriages with decades of difference. There is a cryonicist couple who have a 60 year difference (he was her teacher, she was brilliant in his field, she admires him, they love each other and are happy)

I've had friends with decades differences. Good friends at church have a 17 year difference (she is older), they've adopted and are raising a beautiful little boy. I was married to a man 18 years older than me, but that was short lived--he was not an honest person, long story--so it only lasted a year and a half. I now am married to a man younger than me (only two years) but all that matters is the honesty, the drive, the energy, the commitment to health--the love and happiness.

[Alien65]

My last relationship began when she was 22 and I 52. It worked great for 5 years but she wanted kids. I felt I already had one!

[Shannon Vyff]

My husband's last relationship was to a woman 7 years younger, he at 29 already had a 55,000 a year job with full benefits--she at 23 wasn't yet sure what she wanted to do in life. They started dating when she was 17 and he was 24, he felt there was a major maturity difference. Now all relationships must deal with emotional problems of some sort, but these can be extreme in some women--it helps to find someone that has a drive level similar to yours. Out of the 7 women he ever dated, from age 14 on--he says he'd only consider three 'sane', fortunately I somehow got on that list

[Karomesis]

he says he'd only consider three 'sane', fortunately I somehow got on that list

see, Shannon's got it right. she's happy, and that's all that really matters in the end

[Luna]

Numbers are mostly meaningless.

[FunkOdyssey]

Numbers are mostly meaningless.

When numbers represent age, they definitely mean something -- in this context, they indicate how long you are going to be living alone as a widow or widower after the death of your partner. To marry someone 20 or 30 years your senior must be the ultimate in poor planning for the future. When you include other complications like the years of disability that often precede death, the picture looks even worse. While it might seem callous to let these considerations influence matters of the heart, in sensible people this thought process should take place before any relationship or emotional attachment even begins to get off the ground.

Edited by FunkOdyssey, 30 June 2008 - 08:59 PM.

[Centurion]

Numbers are mostly meaningless.

When numbers represent age, they definitely mean something -- in this context, they indicate how long you are going to be living alone as a widow or widower after the death of your partner. To marry someone 20 or 30 years your senior must be the ultimate in poor planning for the future. When you include other complications like the years of disability that often precede death, the picture looks even worse. While it might seem callous to let these considerations influence matters of the heart, in sensible people this thought process should take place before any relationship or emotional attachment even begins to get off the ground.

True Funk, very true. I dated a girl 20 years my senior once and this was ultimately the reason why we had to let it go. If things did work out, in later years I'd still have to watch her decline in later years.

[thefirstimmortal]

Assuming you are a consenting, single adult and assuming you find the person attractive
physically, intellectually, and/or emotionally would you date someone decades your senior?
If not, why not? Does it produce a "gut reaction" in you if you see people doing this?

I hadn't really thought about this until recently. Not long ago a young man came over to me in
a coffee shop (actually Panera) and asked if he could join me. I really was just getting ready
to leave so I said so and politely excused myself. He slipped me his card after writing something
on the back and said, "Call me sometime." That day when I got into work right afterwards I
tossed the card in the trash (I'm more than happily married) or rather I should say "at" the trash.
One of my co-workers picked it up and asked what it was. I explained and she said, "No way!
Gross! I went to school with him and you're old enough to be his mother!" She went on to
"explain" that he must have been interested in some sort of business deal with me. By his card
he worked for a large, local publisher of religious books (a total turnoff, LOL) so I can't imagine
what sort of business deal he'd have in mind. By the back of the card - "cell - 555-5555 How
about coffee? :o) John" it looked like a different proposition to me. This young girl was desperate
to find some other explanation than the obvious.

So how about it - does the idea of older people and younger people dating or being attracted to
each other gross you out? If it does, how do you reconcile it with your immortalist goals? Or
is it just another pernicious age meme?

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This is more popular and accepted than you might think. In fact Kylyssa, it’s so popular and socially accepted that there is a term for it. M-I-L-F. I would spell it out for you, but I’m reasonably sure that Shepard would censor the post.

[thefirstimmortal]

I am 20. I would do anything with 18 - 29 year old girls, but the thought of getting involved with a 45 year old lady who already had kids doesn't appeal to me. I don't think age is really a factor, it's just a matter of personal preference. I also tend to think that once I'm older, my tastes will change.

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Let me give you a likely glimpse of you future Braz. When I was 18, I loved 18 year old women, and when I was 28 I loved 18 year old women. I’m a few years older than that now and I still love 18 year old women. I suspect that the trend will continue, possibly to my death. I personally voted no in the poll, but that’s because much like you it’s a personal taste sorta issue. Besides, when woman get much past 25 they really start having that whole I want a kid thing, and when it comes to marriage they are quicker to get to that, “where are we at” stage. Who needs that.

[thefirstimmortal]

My last relationship began when she was 22 and I 52. It worked great for 5 years but she wanted kids. I felt I already had one!

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LOL, no particular comment except I thoroughly enjoyed your post.

Live Long and Well Alien65.

[Shepard]

This is more popular and accepted than you might think. In fact Kylyssa, it’s so popular and socially accepted that there is a term for it. M-I-L-F. I would spell it out for you, but I’m reasonably sure that Shepard would censor the post.

We prefer you use * in place of all vowels in this police state.

Thank you for your cooperation.

[sentinel]

My wife and her sister were described as MILFs last weekend when we were at my Niece's 18th Birthday party by some young chaps (not while I was around of course) and they were "conceptually" flattered, despite the fact they hadn't heard the term before and it sounds a bit crude when you first spell it out to someone.

Saying that I don't see myself having a problem with being the appropriately sounding equivalent: a FILF.

[thefirstimmortal]

This is more popular and accepted than you might think. In fact Kylyssa, it’s so popular and socially accepted that there is a term for it. M-I-L-F. I would spell it out for you, but I’m reasonably sure that Shepard would censor the post.

We prefer you use * in place of all vowels in this police state.

Thank you for your cooperation.

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[Korimyr the Rat]

My girlfriend is close to my age, but my most recent ex was several years older and had grown children.

One of the reasons our relationship didn't work out is that I want to have children of my own, and she had been sterilized after her third-- not to mention, she was nearing the age where natural infertility becomes a serious issue.

Take that issue off the table, and I have no problem with dating older women. People have been telling me that I think and act much older than my age since before I started going grey at fifteen.