I'm in complete understanding of your problem
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My personal recommendations is a bit of meditations to just try to relax and feel that bit of emotional detachment towards your current way of life: learn to observe i should say. Once you learn a sense of detached viewing (which is probably the most difficult/lengthy part), comes a time for reconstruction... learn to work with your emotions, they're quite simple, kind of like dealing with water. You essentially control the ripples by focusing on the emotion of choice.
When you can live within your head, you can learn to control the way you interpret that which you perceive. Learning compassion is rather simple as well, just take into account each person's life... their struggles, their pains, agonies... also when you learn to observe love and the way it modifies perception... you can learn to engineer those feelings constantly whenever necessary, association goes a long way. And being "light hearted" simply requires global perspective. After awhile, you can train these states
Anyways this takes time and a level of seclusion dependent on who you are, but given your preference to non-supplements, i'd say it's one of the best method
. If some of it didn't come through properly feel free to reply. Also get some exercise, evidence proves it strengthens the parts of the brain that deal with emotional control.
That's my no bull answer... lol Best of luck.
Edited by mysticpsi, 02 June 2008 - 07:40 AM.