I always picture iADD being associated with a certain slothfulness, academic difficulties, etc. I was actually okay throughout most of high school, despite difficulties in certain subjects, and did have a lot of natural motivation to succeed (albeit lacking the patientce to really follow through on ideas I had). Have you, like me, found your motivation etc. getting worse over time?
Most definitely. For the first 2.5 years of high school, I was first in my class without even trying. Had a lot of natural motivation to learn, without really having to feel like I was working "toward" something by doing well in school. My motivation got incredibly bad my last year of high school, perhaps because of the realization that most of the work I was doing wasn't actually
learning, and the learning I was doing wasn't really that satisfying. Still graduated 11th in my class, but senior year I got a couple of Fs thoughout the year because it suddenly didn't make sense for me to do the work.
I failed lots of classes when I tried going to college. Again, all the work was well within my capabilities (or at least, attainable with a reasonable amount of effort), but I had a huge amount of difficulty making myself do it, because none of it seemed relevant to me. Lots of nights staying up until dawn doing homework that should have been really quick, because forcing myself to concentrate on it was like holding my breath underwater.
In the last five years or so I've learned so much; in many ways, more than I would have if I'd been a successful college student and upshifted smartly into a conventional career. I have the rare ability to be interested in a huge number of subjects, and to delve into them very deeply simply out of curiosity. I rarely watch TV, and am not satisfied unless I'm learning something. In other words, I'm one of the least "lazy" and most self-directed people I know.
But this is mostly because of certain adaptations I've made. Some incredibly basic things are still so hard for me. Things that aren't self-directed, are menial or tedious, take an unreasonable amount of struggling. I'll put off a simple half-hour task for weeks, that will make a big difference in my life, and allow me to do things I really want to, because I'm never in the right frame of mind to concentrate on it effectively.
I have some real problems concentrating, as well...I have a hard time reading for more than a certain amount of time (seemingly modulated by how excited/interested I am by the material, but also pertaining to purely recreational reading), before I start to realize my eyes are following the lines, but I was thinking of something completely different and can't remember the last paragraph. Inability to attend feeds into inability to get motivated, and vice-versa. But I've found that attentional problems can be ameliorated by a variety of strategies (time structuring, some nootropics), but motivational troubles are much harder to compensate for...because on a very fundamental level it irrationally doesn't make sense to me to do certain things.
I guess part of my motivation in seeking out neuropsych testing is also proving it to *myself*; like I say, an ADD label is a convenient way to account for certain difficulties in my past, and I worry I may be selectively remember certain details and lying to myself. It's really difficult to put myself into my head state during high school, given how long it's been.
I know what you mean. I've been dealing with this for like 8 years now, and in writing this I have to suppress that little voice that keeps saying "you're just making excuses for yourself." I got diagnosed with ADD more or less by accident, as I was seeing a psychiatrist for some anxiety issues during a long and somewhat tragic period in my early 20s. It never occurred to me at the time that I might have ADD, because I don't fit the popular conception in many ways, and so many of these things were so...effortless for me when I was a teenager.
Even now, I'm not apt to tell people I have ADD, except in this kind of context. Not because I'm ashamed, but because having to listen to those "but you don't seem like..." and "you just need to try harder..." clichés echo my own cycles of self-doubt, and after a certain point it's not useful to agonize over any more. Some kind of brain scan that would give me a certificate saying "YOU HAVE ADD" would make a lot of this easier, but in a way I'm glad I don't identify with a disorder as strongly as I might. Looking at it as a set of thought/behavioral structures that require certain practices to utilize effectively helps me keep things in perspective.
Sorry for the long post...just wanted to let you know how my stuff went, because it sounds like you're dealing with some of the same obstacles. Not that I'm trying to definitely diagnose you with ADD based on your short description (although it's pretty indicative). It really sounds like you're thinking along the right lines, and pursuing some good options. Just have more confidence in yourself, and if you're sure something is happening a certain way in your mind, don't let a doctor tell you otherwise unless they have a compelling reason why you're wrong.