I don't have a problem with any part of me. I know the biological reasons for male libido. My problem is getting to use that libido for anything other than my right hand. The idea of girls hitting on ME is laughable.
I'm just here to compile ways how current medical intervention can remove libido. I am aware there will be side effects but it would help me out alot =/.
Well like I said, most psychiatrists would start with SSRIs to treat obsessive compulsive disorders, which are efficacious, and have a favorable side effect profile. Have you been diagnosed with any disorder before? If you want to keep this private, feel free to send a message to my inbox. In addition to drug therapy, I would
highly suggest that you continue behavioral therapy, because it's evident that you have some serious self-esteem issues.
I've been told that I'm rather perceptive, and from what I can tell, there are no grounds for the extent of your self-loathing. You seem to be a smart, witty, and reflective fellow that I wouldn't mind sharing a drink, and enjoying a few games of billiards with on a Friday. And there are plenty of women that will undoubtedly feel the same, but their sentiments will have a likely romantic quality. The epidemiological data on your symptoms suggest that the incidence is higher than popularly thought---incidentally, having OCD is not without its benefits, since it's correlated with a higher intelligence quotient. So accentuate the positive, because this sort of self-depreciating thinking is empirically, and functionally related to symptom severity. I know your symptoms must be taxing, but you can't allow your illness, and your irrationally dark thoughts to govern your life. Instead, summon all of your energy to be channeled towards positive thinking, outdoor activities, being social, taking chances, and tapping into your innate lust for life. But as a supplement to this thinking, seek medical treatment if possible, which will work if you maintain an open mind, and moderate your expectations for immediate relief---no such therapy has such an effect, and there is no panacea treatment. There are costs to any endeavor, and pharmacological therapy is no different, but the costs of continuing without such a treatment is a far more costly alternative.
As for the problem with masturbation, you could also try the following: place a rubber band around your wrist, and every time you feel the impulse to masturbate, snap yourself with the rubber band continuously, and try to force yourself to think about topics that you find captivating---topics that animate you, and give you a reason for being. Over time, this therapy may lead to an appreciable reduction of the urge to masturbate. But abstinence is certainly not a healthy option, because besides it being a deviation from our nature, the evidence suggests that the practice leads to deleterious effects. At the same time, though, set limits to your indulgence of lower forms of pleasure, and embrace the higher forms of pleasure. A friend's nice summary of John Stuart Mill's take on pleasure:
http://skepticalphil...es-in-mill.htmlA side question: which Qala are you from? Almost certainly Malta, right?
Edited by Rol82, 18 November 2010 - 08:56 AM.