There are girls out there for you, you just have not found them yet. There are plenty of more introverted, highly intelligent, and scientifically minded women out there, believe me. I'm sure you have met some, so, what did you think about them? Have you ever been friends with a girl that is a lot like you?
I have to disagree with you and bkaz thinking sex and a social life is unproductive. Having a balance between hard work and pleasurable social interaction is what keeps many bright innovative people going by breaking up the monotony. I truly believe, if it were not for our social nature, we would not have progressed in many areas the way we have, including science.
I think you two will realize at one point how valuable sex, intimacy, and social interaction are to the richness of life. Maybe part of the problem is that neither of you have ever experienced the pleasure of sex and social interaction and balanced them out with other interests at the same time.
Sebr.porte, do you think it is possible that you really have anxiety and depression and they are at the root of your symptoms of ADHD? Could it be that ADHD is secondary and has become a problem because of underlying anxiety and depression that result from interruptions/inadequacies in your development during childhood? What do you think about continuing on with a good therapist and the potential therapy has to help you? Would you be o.k. with the group setting? If not, do you think challenging yourself to try group therapy would be a good thing? Sometimes, if we don't continue to challenge ourselves, we cannot grow.
One thing I would try to do is to move away from looking at the human race, our evolution, and our current state in such an animalistic manner. I realize it may be too late for that. I also realize you can't help it given your scientific mind. Still, I do not believe thinking this way all the time is going to help you. We are human and we are very different than animals. While I do not believe we have spirits, we sure as hell have come as close to appearing that we are fulled with spirit as we can. I feel like there are beautiful sides of human life that you are having a hard time appreciating. Sorry if I'm wrong.
I know you are glad that your parents divorced as they were not good for each other. I feel the same way about my parents. Still, I realized through therapy that the divorce had a fairly significant negative impact on me and my emotional development. My mother not being able to connect consistently emotionally also had an impact. There are many things that took place in childhood that may have shaped who we have become in ways that are not healthy for us. It would be worthwhile exploring some possibilities including your parents divorce in therapy. Even if a divorce is amicable, it still leaves a negative impact on the children involved. I know going to therapy and dealing with this shit sounds like a huge pain in the ass and it's the last thing you want to do right now in your life, but believe me, if you take the necessary time and do the work, you will be so much better off in the long run. Otherwise, you may find yourself fifteen years from now like me wishing you were not so stubborn and continued on with a good therapist.
Edited by morganator, 24 November 2010 - 10:27 PM.