Oh ok I get it now. So a person from a family could have very different facial features to the rest of how the different family members in the present and past looked due to different expressions in genes contributing to bone/muscle/skin/cartilage formation even while having the exact same alleles?
How do we purposely change gene expression? Even if we could change gene expression wouldn't most of the changes we could make to gene expression be useless on an adult? That's not to say our bodies can't change as adults but for the most part all of the important changes that could be made would only be useful if done at the zygote level right?
The trouble is epigenetics is still somewhat of a new field.... we don't really know how to perfectly influence genes.... there are billions if not trillions of possible things that may or may not influence gene expression. For instance it's well known stress will effect gene expression, as well as studying, meditation, etc.... These gene expression changes can be passed onto your offspring too, so if you lived a healthy life, your offspring may benefit from having a healthier default gene expression, so to speak.
Gene expression can be changed all throughout life. It is not impossible to change them as an adult, but there is more resistance in the process because of everything that is already built up in your brain.... as a child you start off with a cleanish slate so to speak.
I know it's not really much of an answer to your question, because this overall is a new field, but if you are concerned about your blood-line you could consider seeing a geneticist or someone of that nature.