I've personally never seen this phenomena. I've heard it described by other people but never have I seen a person who I personally think is charismatic or who I am abnormally prone to pay attention to. Except of course a beautiful girl or an extremely muscular male.
I CAN EXPLAIN YOU HOW TO BE CHARISMATIC HOW TO CREATE YOUR OWN CHARISMA, BUT you'll need to try to understand what I'm trying to say without finding absurd or amusing, my examples. Just follow the point until it hits you! Keep reading:
This makes me realize that charisma is usually a niche which is on the internet highly "informative-wanted", but in real life, besides the fact that we never really mention this word in our daily life, we encounter moments when we hear someone saying about another person (or other about you etc), it's not being seen by the others as a WOW or a OMG.... in cases where wow would be a response to people hearing out that you've made it on your final exam/finding a mate/getting that job/kicking someone's ass or the latter if they hear something quite specifically to such a reaction. When we hear about someone having charisma, we simply have a strange taste that is made out of envy and liking very much in the same time. Usually if you envy someone, you force yourself into not liking him, and if you like him, any envy is easily passed (most cases).
And there is also the fact that you might not agree at all or/nor give a shite with the fact someone or even you have charisma.
THEREFORE, we have a situation:
People don't seem to care about it in real life, but they do want it. They do want it because actually hearing from other and many people throughout the years, it will make you realize that you are charismatic. Now what happens, is that charismatic traits are made out of several qualities & skills. Every single person has all the skills and qualities in the world, just that some of them are more developed that others. There is a first 'house' of qualities that it usually more balanced and more common in people, like laughing often and make others laugh without making yourself a fool obviously, and so on. The second 'house' goes by all the other skills, that few really have them and know how to use them, such as the ability to be a top notch stand up comedian, or how to be so sarcastic that it makes you a sexy walking meat for the chicks.
I know you are lost, but believe me I'm way more lost. This strain is pretty neat.
So to resume my point, what happens is that when you think you are being just a little charismatic - just knowing (by proof helps tremendously) and acknowledging it, you light the fire and there's plenty of room to improve.
People don't know it, but basically CHARISMA is something that is similar in appearance, but quite different in "composition".
FIRST MISTAKE that people do in order to try and achieve their charisma, is to copy some funny alpha guy, usually an actor who they can watch on youtube and in movies. That's not the way. Charisma is something fragile but it stays with you forever.
In order to create your personal charisma, that will eventually look like any other typical charisma (so don't worry about "it's not enough thing"), you need to find your best qualities. After you found them, you realize that only one or two of your qualities/skills are high enough or at least potential for further improvement WITH hope as well. You need to focus on them, but only 2 ingredients doesn't make a soup. So move on and remember that every single of us, has a different perception in nearly everything, even taste as you know it, but including way of using words and exchanges a dialogue with someone else. Therefore, DO NOT follow a formula from the internet that tells you exactly what charisma is! some of those skills mentioned in there, are for some people very hard to develop, and mostly due to other problems.
You need follow your own perception of what charisma is to you, what charisma means for other people, how is charisma going to change you + if you are willing to change for her. And here is the whole final ending deal. You need to follow you perception about charisma, and improve on your best qualities and skills. People with talents, or having a talent for a certain thing, it means that you have the levels of that quality/skill raised through the roof!! It can be good and ~bad as well.
How Charisma Works and How to Obtain it:
So you need to work on several skills in such a way that they are in GREAT SYNERGY! For example, let's take an alpha male. Now he does not know nor care that he has a charisma, but in his case, due to the fact that he is an alpha male, in most cases some of his best qualities/skills would be knowing how to socialize and leave a pleasant mark with anyone + being funny + good in bed + gym body + passionate about cars + -hates his job + good with ladies + -/+ has a LOT of different friends) (all these are not what exactly makes an alpha male, because as i said, all of them combined could fit to the traits of an alpha male and good to call it charisma, while alone, it wouldn't. I enumerated random parts.)
So, this guy has more qualities and flaws then mentioned in there, but those alone are what makes him also charismatic. His own personal soup.
Now, the fact that his levels in socializing are up, he got a lot of friends. With such a large group of friends, you tend to have a more social life, since you're going to a bunch of random places to do stuff~ Most people usually notice when someone is having a lot of their friends in common with the x charismatic guy, while you still don't know him, besides the fact he has even more. So while meeting so many people on a daily basis, the chances are pretty big of finding some women to date too.. So with his body of the gym and his car and he managed to get an interest from 10 (chick),but that was only an 'entry'. but he isn't that type of rich guy who is stupid and a show off.. this simply happened. Because he knows how to socialize, and also knows how to hit on them and finish the day like a hero. But that would make him go to work with a hangover and blame his state on the job. As he stays on his job, he talks on FB all day long with his friends, starting to hate his job more due to stealing life.
To understand it better, that specific set of skills and qualities (including bad ones) are what creates charisma. Because that formation will work the same way the next time as well, just that it can always have different outcomes, but it always works in synergy, giving you charisma. Charisma sustains everything, and everything you do, you do much better. if for some reason you don't have charisma formatted in you, then simply think of disrupted molecules wandering around in your body. If you would be paranoid, depressive, drug addict, living in misery, bipolar or suicidal... that would create a personal charisma for a mass murderer or an overdose death. But that's not what charisma looks like, it's something else, that's why it's important for you to know what it means, and to understand how the others perceive it and how you perceive it, and have the vision of how it can change you and if you are willing to start the change first, towards it)This would go off-topic, but most people can't really see that we can actually create psychological molecules of certain states, that usually affects moods, but also about the way we respond in certain situations).
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