Be yourself.
Who cares what people think.
WARNING: generalizations and sometimes overly opionated comments ahead.
There is one thing I would definetly modify. Your mindset. Why do you need a girlfriend? So many people "need" a girlfriend these days and IMO it is because they lack the ability to gain a sense of self-worth independantly. So may people seems to need the approval/acceptance of others to accept themselves.
I know that this is hitting some buttons guyledouche.
Your threads talk about anxiety and social phobias but here in the cyberworld you're a cool dude. You can articulate yourself reasonably well and seem to have an curious way about you. Use this! When you meet people ask questions and be curious.
However, don't have any motives for doing what you are doing apart from a genuine ineterest. Sure, you may want to go and out score but if you forget about going out and scoring, this will be the night you score. Can anyone hear me with that comment? guys, I think we have all been there.
In my eyes there is nothing more attractive that self-confidence and strong sense of self-worth. Find this and everyone will see it and come your way.
I'm not afraid to wear anything. My faviourite outfit consists of a long black skirt, riding boots, a large leather bondage belt with chains, white shirt and losely fitting black tie. I'm male as well. Here is a picture that inspired me to put the above outfit together
I think even though there is a dress involved, the above picture is still very masculine.
My point is, I feel comfortable in this outfit and it shows. The looks i get from the women are positive. I do get some negative looks from the women though but that is only because I look better in a dress than them. [lol]
I don't dress like this always though. The way you dress is just a means to freely express yourself. I am no way suggesting that you put on a skirt. All I am saying is find a little confidence and don't be so motivated to find a girlfriend.
If all else fails, I still have a few places left in my course at the DZU (Derek Zoolander University) school for male models.
My final word, don't consciously materialise people into objects of desire. Desire and attraction for another is innate. I believe this, however, saying to your girlfriend that attraction is an innate quality you can't control after you get caught checking out another chick, doesn't work. Trust me on this