Edited by zoolander, 29 October 2006 - 02:11 AM.
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Broke up with live in girlfriend...need help
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Posted 29 October 2006 - 01:58 PM
Most of the following may have already been mentioned, but the combination should do the trick:
(1) exercise (1 hour+ daily ... get those endorphins flowing)
(2) see a psycho-pharmacologist ... probably short-term treatment with an SSRI is appropriate. I suspect a sedative like Xanax or Valium is probably counterproductive.
(3) talk to a therapist -- need an outlet for your feelings.
(4) start dating again when you are ready.
(5) avoid alcohol and recreational drugs - these may deepen your depression and add to your issues.
(6) spend time with your friends. Try to avoid isolating yourself.
Like others here, I sympathize. Life will have its ups and downs. This is just a bad "down" and you will get over it eventually.
(1) exercise (1 hour+ daily ... get those endorphins flowing)
(2) see a psycho-pharmacologist ... probably short-term treatment with an SSRI is appropriate. I suspect a sedative like Xanax or Valium is probably counterproductive.
(3) talk to a therapist -- need an outlet for your feelings.
(4) start dating again when you are ready.
(5) avoid alcohol and recreational drugs - these may deepen your depression and add to your issues.
(6) spend time with your friends. Try to avoid isolating yourself.
Like others here, I sympathize. Life will have its ups and downs. This is just a bad "down" and you will get over it eventually.
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Posted 29 October 2006 - 09:45 PM
forgive my frankness, but putang is putang. [:o]
there are many,many females out there who are willing to mate and form a sustainable pair bond with an idividual such as yourself.
It would help if you were confident and ambitious though, as many females see this as a cue of future success and hence are likely to engender feeling of compatibility and infatuation.
so technically speaking, the longer and more severe your depression lasts, the less chance at favorable mating opportunities with desirable females is. You need to start getting out and working out with weights/bodyweight and get your bodies feel good chemicals going, if you need help formatting a workout or aren't sure what to do, hit me up on PM I can help you out. [thumb]
there are many,many females out there who are willing to mate and form a sustainable pair bond with an idividual such as yourself.
It would help if you were confident and ambitious though, as many females see this as a cue of future success and hence are likely to engender feeling of compatibility and infatuation.
so technically speaking, the longer and more severe your depression lasts, the less chance at favorable mating opportunities with desirable females is. You need to start getting out and working out with weights/bodyweight and get your bodies feel good chemicals going, if you need help formatting a workout or aren't sure what to do, hit me up on PM I can help you out. [thumb]
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Posted 29 October 2006 - 10:07 PM
putang is putang
Totally agree, pussy is pussy but women are more than just pussy. This is where alot of people go wrong. They confuse the desire for the pussy as the desire for the whole person. IMHO, sexual relations with someone initiates an emotional attachment to the sexual partner. I believe that this is innate and takes alot of un/reconditioning to avoid.
Honestly. Think about the last time you slept with someone before you got to know them. Did you start to develop an emotional attachment and then a month or two down the line think, "Hang on second?!"
Hence, IMO beware of the pussy is pussy mindset
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Posted 29 October 2006 - 10:50 PM
Well said Zoolander. Thats why you have to bat the home run before a date, it blinds you to the putang and opens your eyes to the rest lol. Im just glad sexual desire and being attracted to someone romantically are so emotionally distinct for me 
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Posted 30 October 2006 - 04:13 AM
. They confuse the desire for the pussy as the desire for the whole person. IMHO, sexual relations with someone initiates an emotional attachment to the sexual partner. I believe that this is innate and takes alot of un/reconditioning to avoid.
With time and effort, many things can be reconditioned. I have trained my mind which is far more important than my body to ignore completely, or assimilate in a different manner the frivolous and pathetic musings of the masses, and treat them as what they truly are....worthless.
More oftentimes than not, what they consider to be of an important nature I consider trivial and worthless, and likewise vice versa. That's not to say I consider females wotrhless, quite the contrary actually; if I were a religious man, I'd fashion a statue of venus and pay homage to it daily as I simply adore women. [sfty]
But alas, there are many beautiful women in this world of 6+ billion. Some for every taste that exists, I fancy tall thin brunettes with circular faces and big eyes.
I'm quite certain there are many women similar to the aforementioned poor souls ex. go out, find them, and enjoy what comes after.
You mentioned liking the "person" I suppose that means when the breakup or divorce comes as it inevitably will for many, you no longer "care" for this particular person and languish in courts arguing over childish matters. Or wishing this person unhappiness instead of the "romance" and lust with which you once adored them?
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Posted 31 October 2006 - 03:02 AM
WORDS WOMEN USE: 1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they > are
> right
> and you need to shut up.
>
> 2. FIVE MINUTES: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an > hour.
> Five
> Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
> minutes
> to watch the game before helping around the house.
>
> 3. NOTHING: This is the calm before the storm. This means > something,
> and you
> should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually > end
> in
> fine.
>
> 4. GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
>
> 5. LOUD SIGH: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal > statement
> often
> misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot
> and
> wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with > you
> about
> nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
>
> 6. THAT'S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements women > can
> make
> to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before
> deciding
> how and when you will pay for your mistake.
>
> 7. THANKS: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just
> say
> you're welcome.
>
> 8. WHATEVER: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
>
> 9. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT: Another dangerous statement,
> meaning this
> is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but > is
> now
> doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "what's
> wrong," for
> the woman's response refer to # 3.
>Thought this maybe helpful for you when you do find a new girlfriend!!
> right
> and you need to shut up.
>
> 2. FIVE MINUTES: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an > hour.
> Five
> Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
> minutes
> to watch the game before helping around the house.
>
> 3. NOTHING: This is the calm before the storm. This means > something,
> and you
> should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually > end
> in
> fine.
>
> 4. GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
>
> 5. LOUD SIGH: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal > statement
> often
> misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot
> and
> wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with > you
> about
> nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
>
> 6. THAT'S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements women > can
> make
> to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before
> deciding
> how and when you will pay for your mistake.
>
> 7. THANKS: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just
> say
> you're welcome.
>
> 8. WHATEVER: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
>
> 9. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT: Another dangerous statement,
> meaning this
> is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but > is
> now
> doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "what's
> wrong," for
> the woman's response refer to # 3.
>Thought this maybe helpful for you when you do find a new girlfriend!!
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Posted 31 October 2006 - 08:15 AM
WORDS WOMEN USE: 1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they > are
> right
> and you need to shut up.
>
> 2. FIVE MINUTES: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an > hour.
> Five
> Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
> minutes
> to watch the game before helping around the house.
>
> 3. NOTHING: This is the calm before the storm. This means > something,
> and you
> should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually > end
> in
> fine.
>
> 4. GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
>
> 5. LOUD SIGH: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal > statement
> often
> misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot
> and
> wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with > you
> about
> nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)
>
> 6. THAT'S OKAY: This is one of the most dangerous statements women > can
> make
> to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before
> deciding
> how and when you will pay for your mistake.
>
> 7. THANKS: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just
> say
> you're welcome.
>
> 8. WHATEVER: Is a women's way of saying F@!K YOU!
>
> 9. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT: Another dangerous statement,
> meaning this
> is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but > is
> now
> doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "what's
> wrong," for
> the woman's response refer to # 3.
>Thought this maybe helpful for you when you do find a new girlfriend!!
I'm impressed, you know something about women, did you find it all out by yourself? O_O
-Infernity
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Posted 01 November 2006 - 06:49 AM
News source-- BBC
Westerners 'are more promiscuous'
People in western countries are more promiscuous, the study says
People in western countries tend to have more sexual partners than those in the developing world, a study says.
Monogamy is dominant across the world, but multiple partners are more common in rich countries, according to the study published in the Lancet
This was despite developing countries having higher rates of sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine researchers gathered data from 59 countries for the study.
They said factors such as poverty and mobility had more of a role in sexually transmitted infections than promiscuity had.
But the team added that the findings showed teenagers were not having sex earlier, contrary to popular beliefs.
The study said there had been no universal tread towards earlier sexual intercourse over the past three decades.
Almost everywhere, sexual activity began for most men and women between 15 and 19 years of age, with men tending to start earlier.
In the UK the average age for men was 16.5 and for women 17.5.
Researchers said most people reported only having one sexual partner in the last year.
However, those reporting multiple partners were much higher in developed countries - up to a third of under 25s in some areas - whereas only a small percentage in Africa reported the same.
And among singletons, westerners were more sexually active as well.
Two thirds of men and women without a partner in African countries reported they had had sex recently, compared to three quarters of those in developed countries.
Surprising
The researchers said these findings were surprising, as higher rates of STIs were reported in developing countries.
But the report's author, Professor Kaye Wellings, said: "This suggests social factors such as poverty, mobility and gender equality may be a strong factor in sexual ill-health than promiscuity."
And she added that the results showed flexible approaches to tackling public health had to be adopted.
"Men and women have sex for different reasons and in different ways in different settings," she said.
"This diversity needs to be respected in a range of approaches tailored to whole societies, and to particular groups and individuals within them.
"The selection of public-health messages needs to be guided by epidemiological evidence rather than by myths and moral stances."
A spokeswoman for Brook, the sexual health charity for young people, added: "There is still much to be done to improve sexual health in this country.
"But the situation here does not compare to that of many developing countries where it can be very difficult to get obtain condoms and to insist on their use, for a range of economic and cultural reasons."
Westerners 'are more promiscuous'
People in western countries are more promiscuous, the study says
People in western countries tend to have more sexual partners than those in the developing world, a study says.
Monogamy is dominant across the world, but multiple partners are more common in rich countries, according to the study published in the Lancet
This was despite developing countries having higher rates of sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine researchers gathered data from 59 countries for the study.
They said factors such as poverty and mobility had more of a role in sexually transmitted infections than promiscuity had.
But the team added that the findings showed teenagers were not having sex earlier, contrary to popular beliefs.
The study said there had been no universal tread towards earlier sexual intercourse over the past three decades.
Almost everywhere, sexual activity began for most men and women between 15 and 19 years of age, with men tending to start earlier.
In the UK the average age for men was 16.5 and for women 17.5.
Researchers said most people reported only having one sexual partner in the last year.
However, those reporting multiple partners were much higher in developed countries - up to a third of under 25s in some areas - whereas only a small percentage in Africa reported the same.
And among singletons, westerners were more sexually active as well.
Two thirds of men and women without a partner in African countries reported they had had sex recently, compared to three quarters of those in developed countries.
Surprising
The researchers said these findings were surprising, as higher rates of STIs were reported in developing countries.
But the report's author, Professor Kaye Wellings, said: "This suggests social factors such as poverty, mobility and gender equality may be a strong factor in sexual ill-health than promiscuity."
And she added that the results showed flexible approaches to tackling public health had to be adopted.
"Men and women have sex for different reasons and in different ways in different settings," she said.
"This diversity needs to be respected in a range of approaches tailored to whole societies, and to particular groups and individuals within them.
"The selection of public-health messages needs to be guided by epidemiological evidence rather than by myths and moral stances."
A spokeswoman for Brook, the sexual health charity for young people, added: "There is still much to be done to improve sexual health in this country.
"But the situation here does not compare to that of many developing countries where it can be very difficult to get obtain condoms and to insist on their use, for a range of economic and cultural reasons."
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Posted 02 November 2006 - 02:04 AM
Is that pic of you on your profile your boyfriend or is that you before you had your sex change operation?!!!
My profile pic is of my boyfriend...he's so dreamy, such a rebel [lol] [lol] [lol] [mellow]
(i wonder what my gf would think of this thread)
!!!!!!!!1111eleven.
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