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[Douggers]

Well here I am, back four months later and no good news.. For those of you who don't know about my situation

http://www.longecity...ng-section-too/

or are too busy to read it, I am a 17 year old male who's father was diagnosed with stage four prostate cancer metastasized to his bones one year ago, given 1-3 years. He is now in the latter part of stage 4 and doctors have stopped treatment, preparing for his death. - I am here to ask what the hell I can do to get through this myself, for my own well being and the well being of my family. I have never experienced a death before, but I can imagine it's one of the worst possible pains and I am very afraid to face it.. If you were in this situation, what would you do to 'better' it for yourself? I know I should spend as much time with him as possible, but I'm talking about things I should do myself to negate some of the stress etc..

Advice, experiences, ideas on what to take (as stress can be very tolling) anything is welcome.

Thanks.

[niner]

I'm sorry that you're going through this, Douggers, especially at your young age. Losing someone that you care deeply about is hard, and you'll be very sad, but you are probably a lot stronger than you may know. If I were going through this (again, that is, as I've lost both my parents) I would try to spend quality time with my dad, as opposed to a large quantity of time. Your family may already be in touch with a hospice organization. If not, you should- they are extremely helpful. A Godsend, really. They will probably be able to put your family in touch with a grief counselor, which may be helpful. You should try to take care of yourself physically. Eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise. Spend some time outdoors and try to keep socializing. Stop in here occasionally and let us know how you're doing.

[Douggers]

I'm sorry that you're going through this, Douggers, especially at your young age. Losing someone that you care deeply about is hard, and you'll be very sad, but you are probably a lot stronger than you may know. If I were going through this (again, that is, as I've lost both my parents) I would try to spend quality time with my dad, as opposed to a large quantity of time. Your family may already be in touch with a hospice organization. If not, you should- they are extremely helpful. A Godsend, really. They will probably be able to put your family in touch with a grief counselor, which may be helpful. You should try to take care of yourself physically. Eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise. Spend some time outdoors and try to keep socializing. Stop in here occasionally and let us know how you're doing.

Hi niners,
I'm sorry to hear about your parents. I really am.
Yes, we are in touch with hospice and lately they have been sending a team over everyday (counselor included) but I have not yet talked to the counselor. Hospice in my city is phenomenal and they do their best to make sure patient and family included are as comfortable as possible. They truly are a godsend. Such kind caring people. - exercise and socialization is not a problem. I'm taking care of that. I'm surrounded by great people. Family members, good friends, teachers, you name it. Sleep on the other hand is getting a little more difficult the more I realize how limited my dads time really is.
Thanks for your support.

[Douggers]

I'm sorry that you're going through this, Douggers, especially at your young age. Losing someone that you care deeply about is hard, and you'll be very sad, but you are probably a lot stronger than you may know. If I were going through this (again, that is, as I've lost both my parents) I would try to spend quality time with my dad, as opposed to a large quantity of time. Your family may already be in touch with a hospice organization. If not, you should- they are extremely helpful. A Godsend, really. They will probably be able to put your family in touch with a grief counselor, which may be helpful. You should try to take care of yourself physically. Eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise. Spend some time outdoors and try to keep socializing. Stop in here occasionally and let us know how you're doing.

Just to keep you updated, my father passed away near the end of May.

[tunt01]

sorry to hear that. i think a key part of life is being resilient. through major stresses in life such as the loss of a loved one, divorce, being fired from a job to the smaller setbacks like a bad test grade or being denied a job after what you thought was a good interview.

your ability to deal with stress is directly related to your personal success in life. there will be times when you are down and you need to be alone and think about what you are going through. but in the end you must deal with the stress/adversity and find your way through life. do not let it consume you or let it be a major obstacle in your life.